My Dear Brothers in Islam
A human is not born to be alone, but rather to live amongst a community. It is by human nature that without the company of our family, relatives and friends we will feel empty. Allah (swt) has created us to be of need to eachother and has filled our hearts with mercy and love for one another.
Allah mentions in the Quran about how the love and mercy between a couple is by saying,
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourself mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and he placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought”
By this verse we understand that it is in the foundation of a couple to have a bond between each other. At the same time, having ties with relatives is also from the divine wisdom of Allah (swt).
Rasulullah (SAW) has said that:
“Allah, the Almighty and Exalted, said: ‘I am the Ar-Rahman. I have created ties of kinship and derived a name for it from my name. If anyone maintains ties of kinship, I maintain connection with him, and I shall cut off anyone who cuts them off”
My Dear Brothers!
Allah has commanded us to strengthen our ties with our spouse and relatives. Thus, this maintenance could be difficult at times. At times, we may come across difficulties amongst our spouses and relatives. And as Mu’mins we are aware of these realities. Why? Because we know us humans are weak and impatient and this is part of the test. And this is why Allah says
“The one who believes in Allah and the Last day should maintain great ties with their relatives”
By this we are reminded that keeping ties with relatives is extremely important as Allah himself links it with believing himself and the Last day.
At the same time, Rasulullah (SAW) also says:
“The one whom believes in Allah and the hereafter should cater for their guests. The one whom believes in Allah and the hereafter should treat their relatives with goodness. The one whom believes in Allah and the hereafter should speak good words or should not speak at all.”
My dear Brothers!
Mercy and goodness towards relatives is a blessing and a test from Allah. It is a blessing because mercy and good towards another will bring you mercy and goodness. And it is a test because it requires patience, forgiveness and consistency. Cutting such relations is condemned and is haram. Therefore, my brothers, we should constantly visit our relatives or even call them to see how they are. We should help them if they are in need of support. This way, we will be of great example to our children and keep this chain of blessings to continue.
May Allah allow us to attain success in this test and allow us to keep greater ties with our families. Amin